a lesbian IS unattracted to males (trans woman or not) because sexual orientation, like its name suggests, is based on biological sex. If you think that’s transphobic than you don’t support lesbians. Simple as that.
specifically it’s transmisogynist. trans women who are lesbians exist
What the fuck is biological sex. Dont even try to fight me on this I’m a bio major and I will destroy you
so what you’re saying is that you’re a bio major but you don’t know what biological sex is? aka anatomy and sex chromosomes? aka written in literally every bio textbook known to mankind?
yikes i think it’s time to pic a new major, kiddo
“What the fuck is biological sex.” - quote of the week.
jesus christ @vulturity not to take away attention from the point of this post (which is that pressuring lesbians - or anyoneeee but lesbians especially as they’re a particularly vulnerable subset of women - to sleep with people against their will is FUCKED and rape culture and shame on youuu)
but you’re so fucking wrong, factually wrong - you have no idea WHAT you’re talking about, so just shut the hell up okay???
yes many species do not follow the xx female/xy male dichotomy, but that does not mean biological sex “doesn’t exist”. yes, there are outliers within the human species as well (intersex people), but that doesn’t mean biological sex isn’t a valid and incredibly useful scientific concept. there are people with chromosomal abnormalities, but that doesn’t mean every bio textbook on the planet doesn’t say something like “humans have 23 pairs of chromosomes / humans have 46 chromosomes”, because for the overwhelming majority of the species that’s accurate, and that knowledge is important and useful. nearly every single person with a vagina has xx chromosomes. nearly every single person with a penis has xy. that’s biology. that’s biological sex. that’s reality.
please, go tell your fucking professors you don’t know what biological sex is, or that you don’t think humans are sexually dimorphic. i’m serious. go tell it to every biology professor, every anatomy professor, every physical anthropology professor, all of them, and see what they say to you. tell them that transwomen are “biologically female”. go to any natural history museum and see the exhibits that casually describe sex differences across species, and which unflinchingly associate penises with males, and the capacity to birth live young with females. then go up to the employees and throw a fit about the sign that describes “the males of this species exhibit a vestigial penis bone, blahblahblah” and BE SURE TO TELL THEM YOU’RE A BIO MAJOR I’M SURE THEY WILL BE VERY IMPRESSED.
there are bio majors who are creationists too, but it doesn’t make intelligent design good science. you have no degree, no credentials - you are 19 years old, taking the most nascent steps into your field. you’re not a scientist, you’re a fucking child telling lesbians they don’t have a right to sexual boundaries, and using flawed distorted science to justify your claims. it’s honestly nauseating.
Bless u
Seriously though, sex segregated bathrooms saved my friend from getting raped a few years ago. She got roofied at a bar and went to the women’s room for safety. Some women scoffed at her because they thought she was falling down drunk, but one figured it out and helped her to a cab. If she’d gone out alone, she’d have been raped by the waiting perp. If the bar had shared unisex bathrooms, he would have come in to “help his drunk friend home,” and god knows if she’d just have been raped or also murdered.
Regardless of anything to do with transpeople, this idea that “Sex-Segregated Public Restrooms Are an Outdated Relic of Victorian Paternalism” is fucking bullshit. Predators can walk into these spaces and do harm much more easily. Pretending that isn’t true isn’t helping.
Right sure, and there is no such thing as same-sex predators.
What the actual hell is wrong with you.
People asking for unisex toilets aren’t asking for the eradication of sex-segregated bathrooms.
Also, rapists are criminals and they will find a way to commit their crime, don’t be so juvenile in thinking that unisex toilets are the enablers in that equation, it is societal teachings that enable and encourage rape culture. Why don’t you pick a fight with something that isn’t a necessity for numerous minorities including intersex people.There are such thing as same-sex predators but the reality is that male people rape female people at a much fucking higher rate than any other configuration. What the actual hell is wrong with you? Why the fuck are you guys so desperate to get males into female spaces? WHY? And also why are you guys always fucking using intersex people as your scapegoats? you’re fucking gross. leave intersex people alone.
Of all my time in the public women’s bathroom, I’ve NEVER been even bothered by another woman. I’d like to keep it that way.
Seriously. I’m 27 years old and I have been using public washrooms alone since around the age of seven. For twenty years, then. I have never, not once ever, been bothered by a woman in our bathrooms. Never. I’ve had drunk girls tell me I’m pretty, and I’ve passed a woman in the next stall over some toilet paper when she asked, and I’ve given a quarter to a woman who needed a tampon from the machine, and I’ve had women make small talk when we wash our hands next to each other…. but I have never, ever been upset, bothered, harassed, or harmed by a woman in a public washroom in twenty years of using them alone.
“Also, rapists are criminals and they will find a way to commit their crime, don’t be so juvenile in thinking that unisex toilets are the enablers in that equation” uhhhhhhmmm I’m sorry? Did you read the story above? Like, the one that you’re directly replying to? Because a unisex toilet would have literally been the enabler there. What a ridiculous comment you’ve made, @travellinglongboarder. And considering how common date rape drugs are, women’s bathrooms have probably saved a lot more lives than just that one. I’ve certainly escaped to them when I’ve been made to feel uncomfortable by males.
It’s almost like males know that some males are predatory towards other males and automagically expect that women behave the exact same way towards other women.
Op: segragated bathrooms saved my friend from being raped
First reply: segregated bathrooms can’t avoid rapeThey literally did. Literally. In the story you’ve just read and are replying to. Are you saying she’s lying? Because men disregarding and ignoring the real lived experiences of women isn’t very original.
I cannot imagine what the atmosphere of a unisex bathroom would be like tbh. Women go into bathrooms to talk, do their hair and makeup, escape unwanted male attention, etc.
I was one in a night club bathroom for over an hour with a group of friends as we listened and gave (albeit drunken) advice to a friend who was being abused by her bf. I’m telling you, you haven’t seen female solidarity until you have witnessed women come up to complete strangers and open up about their experiences with abusive men in order to help another abused woman. < This happened a few times during our bathroom convo - and each woman left my friend feeling more hopeful about her own situation. A couple of these women shared really intimate things with my friend, and all showed genuine concern for her well-being. THIS WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED IN A UNISEX BATHROOM.
How would we have been able to slag men off if it were a unisex bathroom? How would we have been able to have that conversation with men coming and going? How would we have been able to get a single word in with all the males mansplaining their point of view on the situation? Would the other women have felt comfortable enough to open up to my friend about their experiences if men were around?
It might be sad, but it’s true: female only bathrooms are sometimes a sanctuary for vulnerable women.
And that’s just the dark tip of the very large and very secretive iceberg that is female culture. In female only spaces there is also open discussions about: periods, pregnancy, birth, contraception, makeup, sex, men, politics (the female pov that very rarely gets heard when men are around), and a ton of other topics that we feel too self conscious to talk about around men. Many (I’d argue most) of us only really voice our genuine opinions with other women, this is why women-only spaces are still important to have, including bathrooms.
I love when people trot out the “well there are female rapists too” argument. I’m a survivor of a female rape, and I’d be the first person to tell you that I am a statistical anomaly, and that men are astronomically more likely to enact sexual violence than females.
But nice attempt. You probably weren’t expecting a female-rape survivor to actually show up and tell you to shut up, were you @travellinglongboarder?
Women’s bathrooms are supposed to be safe places for us. I was at a bar one time and a teenage girl was crying in the stall and her (much older) boyfriend was yelling at her through the door. I kicked him out and stood blocking the door for ages and kept loudly telling him to fuck right off whenever he tried to get back in. She did not want to see him. We stayed a while, she was really drunk and I was just grateful that we had that bathroom where we are allowed to forcefully block the entry of males trying to get in. In a unisex bathroom there is no safety from men.
For fucks sake raping women in empty bathrooms is a fucking porn category. Accessing female space and assaulting a woman is specifically what turns these men on and we’re supposed to welcome them into our bathrooms? Fuck no. Never.
I’m doing an experiment
the amount of notes and nobody is doing anything about it
It’s been almost 2 years since I posted this and not a thing has changed.
·Make sure you have alot of free space at your phone, maybe delete some apps.
·Find your cosplay outfit. Most importandly get a hat
·Find a *random* phrase to say when you’re about to battle (ex. “I like umbrellas!”) and when you win/lose (ex. “You’re too strong!”)
·If you don’t have then buy a journal
·Practice your battle slide
·Gym leaders should make some badges. Tip- you can make them with clay.
Team Rocket members should practice their lines
·Make sure you have a bag since your pokémon journey will be long. Small list of the things you should totaly have: Water, Journal, Pokéballs so you can be more realistic, a snack incase you get hungry, money, gym leaders should have their badges, a pair of clothes just incase anything happens, your trainer card and phone charger because you will totally find a shiny pokémon at a random house, so why not charge your phone while you try to catch it?Reblog this to save a life.
I love women’s bathroom culture. It’s our only public safe space, totally free from men, and I have encountered nothing but love and support from every woman I have met in the ladies’ room.
Women use the restroom to get away from men.
We go in pairs so we can tell each other things we can’t say in front of men–watch out for that guy, he looks like a creeper.
When I have a panic attack in public, I know I can hide in the ladies’ room and if any woman comes in, chances are she will be sympathetic if she interacts with me. When I had a panic attack in Las Vegas, I hid in the first bathroom I could find. The women inside comforted me, talked to me–and I didn’t even know their names. Males would not have been so kind, or may have tried to take advantage of me in an emotional state.
I suffer from an anxiety disorder, so I have panic attacks frequently. A woman once read my palm while comforting me in a bar bathroom. We talked about very personal things, things about men, things women can’t say in front of men. Because this is one of the few places we can say those things to each other in public.
I do not want to live in a world where men can walk in to women’s bathrooms. Where we can’t get away from men. Where a man could make sexual comments about you while you put on your make up, stand outside the stall while you pee and monitor your every move.
Women’s domestic violence shelters often hide important phone numbers on business cards inside bathroom stalls. What if a man uses that stall and sees those cards and demands to search the woman he is with for one?
If a woman is extremely drunk and passes out in a bathroom, wouldn’t it be safer if she could be found only by other females and not by males who are more likely to take advantage of her?
What if all bathrooms had urinals (as not to discriminate, because recognizing differences in genitalia is cissexist!!) and males could just freely expose themselves to women? Walk in to any bathroom and a man might be looking at you while he touches his dick! Imagine the comments they would make.
Adding a third gender neutral option is a great idea. Destroying women’s safe space by including our oppressors is not.
I do not want women’s bathroom culture to go away. We need this safe space. We need to fight for it or else it will be gone.
The only time in my adulthood that I have ever felt unsafe in a women’s bathroom was when I realized there was a man peeing in one of the stalls.
I have hid in the bathroom until closing so that my bartender friend kicked everyone out and I could get away from the creep who was hitting on me. I once (at a different bar from the one my friend worked at) cut a sexual assault short by saying I had to use the bathroom. I hid there, planned my escape, and ran home. That option wouldn’t even have been open to me had all the bathrooms been gender-neutral. I would have had to endure more unwanted tonguing and possibly other things as well until I either unfroze and fought back or until someone noticed something was wrong and stepped in.
I can’t believe i’m doing this but I really have no where to turn to. please help me, for the last few days i’ve been crying non stop and been dealing with suicidal thoughts. my parents recently told me that they’ve met a guy that said he wanted to marry me, and they accepted his proposal. I refused and told them I won’t marry him, but they don’t care. because of our “culture” they think they have the right to decide marriage for me. this man that i’m marrying is 34 years old, i’m 18. i’ve never met him, i’ve never talked to him, but if i stay with my parents i’ll have to spend my life with him. i don’t have anyone i can talk to or anyone that i can trust to help me. and because of that i’ve decided to run. i have a friend in poland that agreed on taking me in, but i don’t have enough money for it. i’ve saved about 700 dollars but i’m 400 dollars short. PLEASE HELP ME, i’m begging you. if i don’t get out of here soon, i don’t think i’ll be able to take it. any donation will help, any reblog will help, so please signal boost this. please donate (go fund me link here).
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